Multiply the Opportunity of 2014
by a Factor of Four
FAST FORWARD—-Today is now January 1st, 2015. You’re looking back on the best year of your entire life! What did the year behold? As you look back on it, what inspired you, amazed you, touched and moved you, and challenged you beyond the familiar?
As the mystery of 2014 is lived out, there is a discovery where something gathered and arose. A deep immersion into the vortex of current reality is needed to sense and actualize your highest future possibility this year. Within this reality you’re presented with a certain pattern of order and creative energy out of which new creations come out of nowhere. A deep immersion into the vortex of current reality is needed to sense and actualize your highest future possibility this year.
Within this reality you’re present to witness a certain pattern of order and creative energy out of which new creations come out of nowhere. Life is loaded with creative movement, even if you’re late for a plane, waiting for your spouse to get dressed, or losing a job—-creative movements that the future needs at this moment in time, to come into being.
As you imagine looking back from the finish line, clarity and definition was yielded from uncertainty. You probably witnessed the expansion of certain aspects of your life as well as contraction and endings as you looked back on 2014. You experienced the outflow of creative energies and love, as well as inflow of influential inputs and stimulation from outside forces. And then the releasing of aspects of your life that needed to end, ended, and the settling in of new structures that have become real in your life. You’re presented with the need to let go of something to let come something else into reality.
Where there was volatility, vision was yielded, and where there was complexity there was understanding. And of course ambiguity always yields agility. Nothing, nothing, and nothing stays the same, as life itself is anatomically dynamic in flow and movement in a constant dance of change between forgetting the past and remembering what matters most, as old and new context move outward and inward.
If you remain still, you can sense what is wanting to emerge as you went along. But it required the tuning of a deeper, wider, and more generous listening than before. Much like the tuning of a piano fork, you must tune your awareness to sense and build upon the emergence of something wanting to happen, and trust it with all you’ve got in you to bring forth.
This process of surrender, willingness, and courage involves living into taking successful risks. These risk points are where successful failures lead to creating what matters to you. Each failure is delivered by taking meaningful leaps into uncertainty, to the place where faith meets innovation, to create a future rather than predict one. We take four types of risk that I outline here. These could become the cornerstones of living your best life.
The Four Risk Factors to Creating the best year of your life:
Factor #1: Emotional Risk. Vulnerability was once considered a weakness, and yet today it is a strength. Cynicism grows strong with us to disconnect and protect us from feeling unsafe with others. And yet we can see from an open heartedness, back to the compassion, kindness, and understanding from which our nature is composed. We can see from who we really are, so that what we see brings us into our finest quality of being.
We’re reminded to listen to our inner self talking to us. You know this one, it’s the voice down deepest that sees what and how you see. It notes what you notice at any moment, without bringing any meaning or interpretation to it. This is not your intuition, it is the future you communing with the current you, like two fields connecting the cadence into one array.
We must learn to learn. Learning to learn involves unlearning what we have in our mind. First we must learn to take our masks off. We must learn to renounce ourselves from the manipulation and control of others to offset our shame. We must sit our identities in the bleachers, to learn from failures as assets for building new capacity. We don’t have to be so preoccupied with power, and attempt to load people into our symbolic package of false impressions.
To build capacity, we learn to disassociate from the voice of judgment telling us to affirm our importance. We come to terms with our own uncertainty, and back off on our attempts to leap into conclusions. We deny the validity of our concepts, and instead relate with life as it is; anew, concept-free.
This disassociation from what we know isn’t easy at times, especially when the need to feel special, rescue, be the hero, and look better than we think we are leads us down the path of a silly ideal born out of a negative belief of who we are or are not. We marry our identity to what we have, what we do, and what others think, and compare ourselves to the folly ideal. Instead we must learn to disengage our costumed, phony face we wear to look better than we are, and choose to be true to what we are—good, bad, and ugly, the full package. We then let go of the need to change others, and accept them as legitimately the way they actually are.
Learning to Connect. We must let go of the obligation to love ourselves, and instead accept what we like and don’t like of us, and not be at issue with this. You can’t love what you don’t love. Love isn’t manufactured. We can stand certain parts of ourselves, this is a fact. It hasn’t any relevance to our creative process. We come to understand ourselves by what we know we are capable of—both in being a fool and being a saint. Everyone, yes you too, is a bozo on the bus, like everyone one of us.
Your shit stinks too. You are a human being, who is incomplete, and perfectly broken. And if you think you’re all together, think again, as long as you’re alive, you’re incomplete. Everything is practice. It’ll be until you don’t have a pulse. Life itself is Earth School, the greatest teacher in the world. You must treat when it works and doesn’t with equal value to make the most of your tour.
So take a table spoon of humility, and suck it up. And don’t marry what you deserve to what you desire. Leave your worth outside the process of creating what matters to you this year. Who you are is a separate matter than what you seek to create. One is first person; the other is a 3rd person orientation from which you operate. As Picasso said, THE POWER RESTS IN THE PAINTING, NOT ME, I JUST LISTEN AND FOLLOW ALONG. Mozart said the same to his colleagues when questioned where he got his material. He replied, “I LISTENED.”
Your perfectionism shows itself in waiting to finish the product or project until it’s to standard. Nothing moves into action when your standard is to be perfect. Instead choose excellence—give yourself plenty of chances for failure this year, to get information faster than getting it right the first time. Creating is a process of elimination.
The ambush is that your opinion of yourself and attachment to what you know, have, and do has made your comfort, status, and security your biggest enemies. These have infected you with foolish pride. To create, you must pass through a period of looking foolish, it is part of the natural order of any creative process. When I learned to sail board it took me two knocked out front teeth and tens of pointed fingers from the beach, but I didn’t swim in and compromise, eventually my skills came. But I looked like a fool for 2 months of difficulty.
Your procrastination is waiting for a guarantee—that everything will be ok, so you wait on something before starting. Then the year just washed by without getting going. You hold off on delegation until you’re guaranteed they ‘get it.’ It could be time to act in an instantly and let go of the standard of perfection and the guarantee of predicting success. You need successful failures to be assets to your creative process. And you don’t need mediocre success to be exaggerated.
Everything you can’t stand in others is what you disown in yourself. You were once them in your past lifetime, and still are them at times. To think that you’re different is folly. Whatever you disown is just a temporary behavior, remember, which will be outgrown at some point to the service of pursuing bigger more important urges in life.
Our gifts tell us the path of our truest work
This year, remember that you can choose to organize your choices by what has heart and meaning for you. The mystery yet to unfold is a process of using the wild and precious life you’re given on behalf of carrying out what you came to do. Besides, life is measured by what you leave in others hearts after you’re gone, so get busy; it’s the second half of your life now.
Factor #2: Trans-personal Risk. Becoming conscious involves heightening our quality of awareness of ourselves, our thoughts, and the patterns of order and creative frequencies flowing in our periphery. We shape ourselves out of our relationships. And we come upon our gifts through our wounds. Our life is held together by a thread moving through it. We can only see the connections between things and events behind us with our rational minds, but to see it as we walk, we bring our openness to the present moment, as it is what the future needed, nothing more, nothing less. Now there are no rules, the future organizes what we do, not the past. This is fundamental choice to live in a creative orientation rather than a reaction one.
Everything is unexpected perfection in the creative process of life. Walking the mystery plan with practical feet involves courage and bravery. We must hold ourselves toward a certain point or intention, and wait for grace within this passage. We must take aim with our gifts and live from a future that matters to us deeply, like a pilot who trusts her instruments at night or in bad weather. We must choose to show up, and be present, as if each moment were invited by the future standing in need of it. To this, we shift our awareness to connecting with the whole, and living with its future pull.
But at times we find ourselves constantly ahead or behind the present moment, far away from listening from the whole. We’re preoccupied with ourselves, the thoughts of others, the future, the past, all of which take us out being here and now. The now is like a feed into sensing an emerging future possibility about to begin like a runway takeoff point, yet we’re somewhere else with our attention detonated by everything else but this moment—out to do list, our commitments, and our social norms that dominate us when we forget what matters. Our conditioning speaks louder to us than the defining features that move us now in the life we inhabit. We’re cutoff from the aliveness, the richness, and wonder of what’s here.
Our gifts tell us the path of our truest work. So much of our motivation has become fear-based, that our actions we take are to avoid or eliminate what we see as a threat ahead. We organize our lives around what could be coming around the corner and attempt to deflect it from ever happening. Instead, we can learn to relate with fear in a way that it’s voice isn’t an inner enemy, but just a friendly care-taking signal that we’re concerned enough about ourselves and others to not get hurt.
We must sit our voice of fear in the bleachers and let it be named as just a voice of fear, that is all. Then, we choose an alternative future that has meaning in the pursuit of our most sacred projects. What lies beyond this voice of fear is the work that we cannot not do. We simply must. We realize that what we love is what we’re gifted at. It is our DNA talking through us, telling us to what and where to focus our life energy. This is because it is what we owe the world, in fact it doesn’t belong to us. It is the signpost telling us what our unique and most precious abilities should come out and play, whether it’s able to be monetized or not, we must commit to this psychic place or address in our lives.
The ego becomes the apprentice to the soul when you follow your aims with your gifts engaged toward the manifestation of your cause for action. At first it resists but after the soul’s desires take the wheel, your spiritual heart becomes dominant, the ego is on-boarded, and comes along the journey, to carry out a higher deed in the service of others. The word desire means “de-sire” or “of the king.” This source of action brings us into a continuous expression of the highest quality of being that we can occupy at any moment. And this is the definition of leadership. We move from this place to another, by ending something into something new coming into life.
Meaning in the work becomes the language of the soul, service is the work itself, and mystery is the presence. Many give the ego a bad rap. You can see why this is so, especially when the ego’s first course in life is to appear favorable, and take take take what it can, like a parasitic menace. But when the ego is apprenticed by the soul’s work, God is forgiven for placing it into our machinery. We can consider what matters to us. This is a great ability to utilize, and a chance to choose how to live one’s life plan. The rest is up to the universe. Indeed it is a wildcard, as everything is waiting for you. Yes, even your demise and disappearance. You know the path by walking on it.
Factor #3: Truth Risk. Telling the truth to ourselves and others presents great risk. And yet if we tell the truth, we could make truth an acquired taste. Truth telling is the absence of exaggeration and minimization. By confronting what is going on with accuracy, we become resourceful both for ourselves and the leadership of others to act.
Francisco Varela said that integrity is how long one can surrender to the holding space of not knowing. Suspending certainty brings us into new dis-confirming truths as life plays onward. We don’t know from where we know what we think we know. Rather than succumb to it by rationale or logic, we access different levels of knowing—the heart, and the open will, which is what Martin Buber called our dormant or destined being. As we age, our wisdom grows our balance of intelligence into a collaboration of the head, the heart, and the hand. We pay attention to both our being and the doer that we are. And we move from a quality and caliber of being that is first the highest quality of energy that we can occupy. We end our refuge in the doing, and listen from the being—this is the passage in the second half of life.
Power doesn’t come for us; it comes from our relationships with the world around us.
The word YOGA means ‘YOKE’ or ‘UNION’. Yoga is the practice of intentionally stopping the automatic stuff of the mind. Bhakti yoga is a form that bridges the union between the God without and within. To see the world as God sees is to transcend the seer via the source from which one sees.
When we connect with our deepest source of attention and inner knowing, we find God within via the choices we make, to love, to be whole, to be free, to be healthy, and to be true to ourselves. None of our choices are driven by obligation or problems to resolve. We choose these desired conditions because they matter to us.
We also choose to respect others as legitimately just as they are. We choose to accept our present situation just as it is without argument. When we choose this, we position ourselves to learn from life, without any disqualification. We learn to inherit life on its own terms because life is essentially in the business of creating life, and we are a supporting cast in the grand scheme of the natural order. Here, we tap into the place from which all creations come. We learn to start with nothing, and use nowhere as the platform for all of our creative acts. As the Buddha said, ‘we see our feet and moon all at once.’ This suggests that creating is the resolution of tension between current reality (OUR FEET), and our Vision (the moon). It signifies a vertical connection with our highest intention coupled with our current position.
Power doesn’t come for us; it comes from our relationships with the world around us. Relationship is the sharing of energy and information that defines a pattern of flow that comes into form. And our levels of awareness or mindfulness regulate this flow. The more present we are to what is going on, the greater the capacity for grand possibilities to arise from any moment. As we open our hearts to others, we access the intelligence of empathic listening and compassion. We reclaim a hidden or lost part of us.
A commitment to the truth is to stay true to what is, and stay true to your deepest intention. Telling yourself the truth as well as others helps establish the moments of awareness needed to adjust to emerging trends, changes, and facts that compose current reality. You take the world in as if life is your teacher. You’re open to the outcome, but not attached to any outcome. No moment is disqualified from value. Everything counts in large amounts. Big doors swing on little hinges. We must thrive on the details.
Factor #4: Financial Risk. Money buys time. All we earn for is to buy the time to do what matters most with the time we have. Sock away 20% of your income this year and pay yourself first. These two habits will afford you more freedom and confidence to take the emotional risk to learn and connect, trans-personal risk to choose, and truth risk to sense and actualize everything that is waiting for you. Financial risk puts you in touch with a stronger balance of intelligence.
Relationships are the centerpiece of value creation for others with your gifts, your enterprise, and your team. To do this, you need the right support structures around you like a supporting cast that brings you into your best self and true work in the world. The partners you select and put around you at this time are perhaps the most important decisions you’ll make in your life building process.
So, take stock, who composes your support system to bring you into greater confidence in your health, your emotional well-being, your mental focus, your creation and preservation of wealth, and access to pursuing your most sacred projects the world is awaiting you to release? Who is your offensive line —-your massage person, your personal assistant, house-keeper, your family doctor, your professional coach, your financial adviser, your accountant, your insurance person, personal trainer, your realtor, the list is large of specialists who’re gifted in these areas that position your confidence.
Your physical support system holds your quantity of energy, while your emotional one beholds the quality of your energy. You stand on their shoulders and let them apply their gifts and talents to you and your life, to help bring a better future into reality. Each one invites you into key decisions, actions, and communications.
Who composes your emotional support system—-your close friendships, associates, spouse, family, etc. And how about your spiritual support system—-your church, your kindred spirits and sentient beings you select as teachers and guides, as well as learning allies on your personal and professional journey. You have to be your own bouncer now—choosing and selecting your fellowship to join your journey. This also may require letting go of depleting relationships that are waiting to end. As you purge them, it’s like clearing the closet of what’s to go, to make space for what’s to come.
As you put these circles of support around you, it’s obvious that to thrive and live fully, you must grant power to these individuals and teams, and empower them to perform the right help. You have blind spots, and don’t always know what you need, but as outsiders, they do. We invest the gifts of others to supply line our authentic power. You must identify what these people depend on your for the most, and listen carefully as to why the relate with you. They are your beacons of unique ability to shine in the fullness of your potential.
Relationships depend on emotional, trans-personal, and truth risk to flourish confidently. By having safe, open, and transparent conversions about your desires, challenges, opportunities, and strengths, you give them access to your needs in a way they can bring their best to the table with sincere help and soul service to perform. This year lead them form the same data points—their future, challenges, opportunities, and strengths. When you bring leadership, confidence, and capability to others, they multiply many times, into greater and greater wealth and appreciation. What you appreciate, appreciates. When you say, NAMASTE, you are saying, I SEE THE DIVINE IN YOU.
As you put this all together with the four risk factors, begin thinking of it like a ladder of confidence—confidence in your health, confidence in your relationships, confidence in your credibility, confidence in your best self, and confidence in your true work in the world. Confidence is about where you put your attention. You will losing your attention all year long, but it’s not how much you fall off, it’s the repeated process of getting back on that positions you into new quotients of growth, gladness ,aliveness, joy, and happiness.
HERE’S TO THE CREATING THE BEST YEAR YOU’VE EVER HAD 2014! LET THE GAMES BEGIN TO LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE!
Copyright 2013 John Davidson